“Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your own presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement.” — Alice Koller (via ardentromantic)
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“Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to. Stay home on New Year’s Eve if that’s what makes you happy. Skip the committee meeting. Cross the street to avoid making aimless chitchat with random acquaintances. Read. Cook. Run. Write a story.” — Susan Cain - Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (via sayhellotodanger)
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nowherebutserenity asked: For our most current anon, I feel your pain. Most of my friends (and my boyfriend), are extroverts who like to go to loud bars and get drunk. I felt the same way you did at first, but as our admin said, baby steps. Go ahead and try being the DD, find a safe corner in the bar where your friends can find you. Don't drive with anyone if they have a DD, give yourself an out. You also might consider earplugs- I have a pair that still allow you to hear, but reduces the decibel level. just a thought.
Anonymous asked: I really detest going to bars and clubs because I'm so introverted. It actually frightens me. When I try to explain this to my extroverted friends, they really make me feel bad for feeling like I can't go with them. I'd rather go to a coffee shop or someone's house, and when I try to explain they just blow me off. I feel like I'm being forced to go to clubs and bars when I really hate it. Do you have any advice?
I can understand! The thing that separates introverts from extroverts, as you may or may not know, is that introverts tend to feel exhausted after spending time in a busy area (say, a bar), while extroverts will feel more excited. This doesn’t mean, however, that introverts cannot have fun in these places, just that they can stand it for less time.
However, your situation seems different. What frightens you about the bars/clubs? Is it the new people? The social “obligations” (dancing, drinking, etc)? Is it the fear of becoming over-exhausted (this actually affects my own enjoyment at parties. I get stressed out because I feel afraid that I might get too tired, especially if I have a busy day the next day)?
I would suggest going with your friends, only if you feel comfortable. Then, when you’re there, try to eliminate the thing you feel makes you uncomfortable. Baby steps, you know. Don’t drink, be the designated driver! Don’t dance with people you don’t know, if that’s what frightens you. Or, hang out in the back, and watch other people dance/drink/make fools of themselves, then join in when you feel comfortable. That always helped me out!
If anyone else has any ideas, feel free to discuss!
Another nice introvert blog is http://www.safe-haven-of-introversion.tumblr.com
Anonymous asked: post/8015190750 - I know this post is old, but I just want to point out that there are waiters, waitresses, and other service workers who are just as introverted as you, but are working those jobs because they need money. They're probably also afraid of you the same way you are of them.
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jenniestuck asked: You know what pisses me off like nothing else? When I request we go home from a day out, and the person I'm with says "Just a second," or "One more minute." It makes me so mad, because it's never just a second or a minute! It's an hour!
How Texting and IMing Help Introverted Teens--Time Magazine Article
i get so frustrated sometimes because i cannot adequately express myself via blogging and i feel like i come off as a twat on tumblr
i am not a twat you need to talk to me like face to face because i make ridiculous facial expressions and i have a weird voice and my hand/arm motions are so big i have hit multiple people when i get in a tizzy
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